I came across a blog post by Abigail Green called, "The day I decided to stop listening to what everyone is saying I'm supposed to do and why I'm not ready to get married in 44 days". Although I may not be a blonde haired, blue eyed girl who who happens to loath dresses and heels, Abigail's description of herself growing up and having "distaste for conformity" is very much me. Not to mention the pressures of "what your supposed to do", if anyone knows me I happen to be somewhat the spokesperson of what your not supposed to do (except for finishing school, not as a lawyer, doctor, or dentist but heck I finished school).
It's my wedding doggone it, and it will be my way. Somewhat non-traditional but wonderful all around! The final thoughts of being ready are pure nuggets of wisdom and freedom. I absolutely love this and thought it was worth a share. Check out her whole post here.
The thought of having to get married the way its supposed to be done.
"At first, this panicked me.
Then, I learned to let it excite me.
It is wildly exhilarating to declare yourself free from all that everybody is expecting you to do.
To decide to be barefoot when you walk down the aisle,
To not ask for trash cans & spatulas on your registry,
& to rest in the reverie,
that everything I am “supposed to do” is all just a big fat lie that I don’t have to listen to.
& maybe just maybe,
I was divinely designed to be exactly who I am,
& to fit a mold made by anybody besides my creative Father is to rob the world of all the things that make me, me.
So this is me charging you…
What are THEY telling you that you’re supposed to do?
& who is THEY anyway?
Is it the media, your advisor, your friends, your family,
Or perhaps,
Is it your own voice whispering lies so quietly you are unaware that you’re believing it?
Be free.
There is a God,
Who made you,
Who wants you to be free.
His Word even says it.
“It is for freedom that Christ has set us free”.
Ask him to help you be free,
From your past regrets,
Your present sins,
Your future worries.
God is always wanting to set you free.
Will you be ready to move to another country, switch your major, quit school, change jobs, or anything in between?
Probably not.
Am I ready to get married?
Oh gosh, no.
But was I ready…
For my dad to get lung cancer?
For Kyle to betray me?
For my loved ones to die?
Oh gosh, no.
Are we ever ready for anything?
Will I be ready…
To be a mom?
To say goodbye to my own mom one day?
To watch my one-day daughters become moms?
Oh gosh, no.
Ready is a lie
& it steals
all your hopes & dreams.
& it paralyzes
your feet from moving.
& it cripples
your heart from believing life is most beautiful when living in the unknown.
Don’t be ready,
Be free.
Ready is for people who trust in themselves,
Who want to live small & safe lives.
Freedom is for people who trust in the One who made them,
Who want to live lives too big to be ready for".
